Is there constant chatter in your home? I only have daughters so I’m not 100% sure if boys are the same but in our household the chatter is never-ending.  So never-ending that I sometimes switch off…

Miss six can be chattering away and I miss half of what she is saying. I only notice that she is still talking because she is looking up at me with these big innocent eyes waiting for me to answer a question, but I have no answer because I didn’t hear the question in the first place…

Have you been there?

I’m embarrassed to say that it was becoming a regular occurrence in our household until this thought crept into my mind…

If I want my teenager to talk to me about her life, her thoughts and feelings does the ground work start now?

Do these primary years set the benchmark for the communication that will take place in those often “stormy” years of parenting a teenager?

I can’t answer these questions right now as my eldest is only six, but I have a gut feeling our future relationship will reflect these very moments we are living right now. So instead of tuning out when she talks I am now tuning back in. As I feel my mind wandering I think about how I want our relationship to be in her teenage years and beyond, which makes me very quickly start to listen to what she is saying. Sure it can be draining, but I feel it will be totally worth it! If on some days my ears can’t take anymore I crank the music and we all sing as we go about our day.

I read this saying the other day which finishes this blog post perfectly, does the talking stop from teenagers because the parents have stopped listening?

Happy listening guys Lisa xx